I can’t seem to remember when the last time was when things flowed smoothly. When picking the right jeans weren’t our job but our mother’s. When choosing between two options were as easy as picking value meals at our favorite fast food restaurant. When making the life changing decisions were made for us as we entrust our future to those who know better.
When did everything happen? Time swept the easy slopes and raked in the rocky bumps and humps of life, and I wasn’t even a witness to its change.
No one really said things were meant to be easy, for in such process, no one could learn the values of life. And yet no one said either that they were going to be hard, this hard.
I wish life in its entirety had labels. White tags for those that are good for us, and black to the ones that are bad. But who am I kidding? That is way too ideal.
Over the years, dealing with situations and people at the same time has been a struggle for me. I may have projected this image that things are at ease, but that really isn’t even half of the story. Everyday is a new day and I have to value the lessons learned from yesterday to be able to handle things more maturely when faced with the obstacle.
Reflection. It’s been so long since I’ve last reflected on my life and I somehow forgot what I used to love so much about it. Till today.
I just went home from mass yesterday when I was so moved with the priest’s homily. He was talking about mercy and justice. The art of forgiving those who have wronged us and knowing how to separate them from those who are to be punished by a higher being.
I would be a hypocrite if I too was to tell that I could easily forgive others. It is not easy. And for those who were wronged badly too, you know what I mean. To be forgiven on the other hand for those whom I’ve wronged is harder for it does not lie in our hands, the fate of our relationships, may they be with our family, friends, or life partners.
That’s where I lost myself.
I came to realize how angry the world has become. How I have become. After everything that had happened to me, I sort of mentally deleted the definition of the word compromise in my head that with a simple and shallow mistake of someone, was so hard for me to just let it pass.
So this is my sorry. I have to do this to officially turn over a new leaf. There’s no better time than now.
I apologize to my parents. The son you expected of me was not the son who I turned out to be, I’m gay. It saddens me that everyday is a struggle for me to prove my worth to you as your son. My achievements and life-changing decisions, no matter how greater they are compared to those of my siblings’ achievements, are still not recognized. I’m tired, and I stopped trying already. Time holds my fate with how you perceive me, and that is time I have to wait for patiently, whether it comes or not. I love you.
I apologize to my friends. I’ve taken you for granted and had made assumptions I shouldn’t have for I know you guys better. I apologize for the times where I chose not to spend time with you for someone not worthy of my time and someone who doesn’t value his time with me. I appreciate all the love you still have for me despite how I treated you guys. If it would mean anything, I’d like to pick up where we last took off.
I apologize to Chris. The break up was peaceful, but along the way, it got really ugly. So ugly that I did things I never thought I was capable of doing to other people. It wasn’t really my style to put issues like those out for the public to read, but I did. Both of us didn’t act our age and frankly, both of us were immature. Instead of dealing with our issues one on one, we handled things differently. Maybe you are at peace right now, maybe you’re not. But from the bottom of my heart, I’m sorry. I wish you nothing but the best. 
And lastly. . .
I ask for forgiveness to God. (I’ll just keep to myself the prayer I have with Him.)
Life has moved fast and morphed fast. What I have to learn now is to keep up with the pace and know when it is time to move. I’ve been so dependent on people that I forgot that in the end, responsibilities has to be accomplished independently. Things are the way they are for reasons beyond our comprehension. We just have to live it.
It’s not that easy to forgive, but asking for forgiveness to those whom you’ve wronged lessens the burden you have in your heart. Mercy and justice really are two different things, but when you’ve learned the tricks of the trade, you’ll surely make the right decisions.
